Thrifting to me is the same as breathing air…I need it to live.
Luckily, (or not so luckily) Mark is just as addicted to scouring thrift stores, flea markets and yard sales as I am. That means there’s no system of checks and balances in our house. So when one of us holds up a “find” at a sale, the other one urges/eggs them on, “Yeah! You can totally turn that anvil into a lamp shade!”
Although way more fun and exciting to share this trait, it’s also been our downfall. Our houses have been filled to the bursting point with “collectibles and treasures” and a suffocating amount of …”projects”. The problem is that we can both see past the ugly or the disrepair of ANYTHING. We can’t throw anything away, thinking that there will be a use for it someday. Fighting this desire to “save” things from ruin and bring it back to life either in it’s former glory or as something completely different, has been an extremely difficult and painful journey for Mark and me. We realized (and by WE, I mean ME…Mark had to be forcibly committed to a clutter-rehab) that when your house is filled with clutter (one of the treatments is to start calling all your treasures “clutter”) it immobilizes you and stifles your life. Instead of doing all those “projects”, we spent all our time building shelves to house all the boxes that contained all the materials to do all the projects! {sigh} I’m getting all tired just thinking about it.
The garage was just the overflow from the house. We had a modest 1,100 square foot house which should be plenty big enough for just the two of us. Some how it wasn’t…
Our answer to this problem? Well obviously…we needed a bigger house! That’s right, folks. We couldn’t see the forest for the clutter. We went from 1,100 square feet to a 4,000 square foot Victorian. The house was amazing. It was also over 110 years old. That means we moved all of our little “projects” into one great big project…the house, itself.
Nate spent his second 2 years of life in this house, wandering the halls looking for his parents. When Zeke came into the picture, we knew we needed a change. The house, the “projects” the clutter…it was just too overwhelming.
I started watching clutter-reducing, organizational, clean-up-your-pig-sty shows obsessively. I was like an overweight person that watches diet/exercise shows. “Clean House” and “Clean Sweep” were on 24 hours a day. Peter Walsh and Niecy Nash were my new gurus. I would have these amazing dreams that both of them would show up at my doorstep, wave their little clutter-free wands and I would emerge from the clutter-cocoon a beautiful, butterfly…able to fly unobstructed through my home. {sigh}
But when that didn’t happen, I knew desperate times called for deperate actions: “Let’s move to Florida, Mark!” I cheered. “Huh?” he replied. “Let’s start over. Let’s sell everything we own, move near our family in FL and lead a clutter-free life!” Mark grabbed his glasses off the (cluttered) bed-side table, put them on and looked me straight in the eye. “Can we make breakfast first?”
So, one year, 3 yard sales, many donations and gifts to friends later…here we are in Florida! Now, I’m not insinuating that we are by any means clutter-free now but we are well on our way. It cost us $10,000 to move all the stuff we felt like we had to keep…the “can’t live without” stuff. We’ve sold/donated about half of that in the year we’ve been in FL and have been “living without it” just fine. Even better actually. Not only is it a very slow, painful process but an extremely expensive one. But the reward is living an authentic life, surrounded by the few things that REALLY matter and bring you joy. (instead of piles of boxes filled with crap)
We have lots of new rules to keep us on the path to “less is more”. One of them is: Nothing comes into our house unless it has a place. And another is: If you bring home a project, it must be done within a week. I’m proud to say we adhered to both rules this past weekend. Celebration has a bi-annual “Porch and Yard Sale”. We are sellers mostly but couldn’t resist a little “treasure hunting” with the boys. (“We’re teaching them moderation” she said trying to convince herself.) Mark spotted a beautiful desk from the 1930’s that needed a “teeny, tiny bit of work” he said. I chose to go along with his white lie because it was awesome and we got it for a song ($30.) He carried it home and then my wonderful husband immediately got out his tools and made the repairs to the legs, cleaned it up and promptly put it in it’s new home…our bedroom. (Was he suppose to be working on the swingset? Absolutely. But I had a selfish moment and he needed to finish a project and be proud for a few minutes. Mission accomplished.) I had an industrial white fold out table from Costco in there before. I had taken out my sewing machine to finally start a life-long desire to learn how to sew. Now, thanks to Mark, I have a beautiful start to my new hobby!
I still dream about Peter Walsh and Niecy Nash. But in these dreams we’re…well let’s just say we’re “clutter-free”!
No Comments “Oh, a hunting we will go…”
I am so guilty! My “studio” is FILLED with nick-knacks and saved lost/found and beautifully broken bits and pieces. My problem started in school (any grade level…take your pick). I fall in love with every single art medium that I EVER experiment with…and I’ve taken A LOT of art classes. I also have an addiction to art supply stores, so I have at least two or three supplies for any given artistic medium.
The thing that crushes me is that I just don’t have enough time in my life to create, which is something I CRAVE!!! I should re-phrase…I don’t allow myself permission to make time for myself to do these things and I feel sad right now acknowledging that truth. Yay! Another topic to discuss in therapy! Where does the guilt come from that says…”you SHOULD feel bad about wanting to clear your plate for yourself!”
I love the last photo by the way…it really is a great table…and now you have a space for your sewing machine, while mine is in it’s box in my closet! Love the peak of your hat collection too! So fun.
🙂 Jenna
You don’t know how reassuring these pictures are! We’ve got a 900sq ft co-op. (At this point, 1100sq ft would be luxurious!)
I was beginning to think that sideways hallway walking was a problem that only I had. Now I realize it might be genetics!
Please forward the address of the clutter-rehab clinic ASAP.
Love to Nate & Zeke, & a fist-bump for Mark,
BG
Hi Maryellen,
I absolutely love reading your blog. It is like having a conversation with you, which is always so much fun! Your love for you two beautiful babies is so sweet, you are an incredible mommy. Your stories about your adorable little treasures make their photos come to life, and make me laugh out loud.
And thank you for sharing your clutter rehab with the world. As a recovering clutter-holic, I know how difficult that is. But more than that, thank you for your free “consultation” which has put me on the path to recovery! That is the path of less clutter/less stuff, and a whole lot more peace of mind!
I could not wait to get started with the process of eliminating junk. By the end of my first day I had thrown out over 15 large bags of clutter (for the city mission or trash). But because of you I feel so inspired, liberated and just plain estatic. My cupboards are organized and you can actually see everthing in them. What a difference, considering these were cupboards that you once needed to wear a hard hat to open! Thanks for being the little voice, and inspiration on my shoulder, right there with me. I no longer need to fill my closets with future gifts and junk that I “might need” someday. I have been on the straight and narrow for one month now, and it feels wonderful!
Thank you Maryellen, you are amazing!
I don’t even know how to put into words what you have done for me, but thank you
from the bottom of my very empty closet, and my overflowing heart!
Love
Debbie